Do you ever feel overwhelmed with everything you have to do? It seems like my mom list is never ending: laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, paying bills, driving kids from here to there… And then there’s the whole work list on top of that! (Actually, there’s two work lists, because I have a job and own a business.) If I had a nickel for every time someone said, “I just don’t know how you do it all, Stephanie!” I would be able to buy a private island and live on the beach forever.
But, if I’m being completely real here, I bring it on myself. I just keep piling things on because it’s easier for me to just do it all myself than to admit that I’m not able to do it all. Because admitting that would mean I’m not capable. It would mean I’m weak. It would mean I’m not measuring up. And I just can’t possibly let that happen, right?
All of that is wrong. My need to do it all, and my perception of what it says about me if I don’t. And the Lord really spoke to me about this when I was reading Acts 6.
In this chapter, the Hellenists are upset because their widows aren’t getting taken care of like they’re supposed to. The twelve apostles knew this needed to be taken care of. So, they had a choice. They could figure out a way to keep preaching the gospel AND to make sure all the widows were taken care of, or they could ask for help. They were smart about it. They knew that taking care of the widows would impact their ability to preach the gospel. So, they called all the believers together and asked for help. They knew that it was better to keep doing the one thing God called them to do. They knew that taking on anything else would take away from that. They knew that doing it all would spread them too thin and they’d be doing multiple things with mediocrity rather than doing one thing with excellence. And, they knew that real weakness would have been shown by NOT asking for help.
Can you see yourself in this scenario? I sure can.
I’d love to say that all those things on all my to-do lists get done every day to perfection. But, it’s just not the case. And that’s OK. When I ask my husband and kids to help with that mommy list, it doesn’t mean I’m weak or incapable. It means that we get more done, and it gets done better, when we share the load.
I just hope I can have enough wisdom to know what those things are that I need to hang onto. I want to do the things that the Lord has given to me specifically and ask for help with the rest. I don’t want to hang on to something I can give away, and I don’t want to give away something I should hang on to. I want to be like the 12 and be able to say, “I can’t do that, because it would distract me from this more important thing, so I need help with that.”
It’s not in my nature, and I’ve never been good at it. But, the Lord was pretty clear that it’s something I need to work on.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.